So, I have determined that a truly positive thing that has come out of all of this, is my inability to yell at my kids. My kids, being no different than any other kids do still requiring some yelling, so again, Lee has really stepped in and helped out there.
I am now whispering at my kids, and they have to stop yelling, crying, screaming.. whatever if they want to hear me.
For example, Josh yelling from the kitchen with the refrigerator door open, "Mom, Can I eat the last chocolate yogurt?"
"Mom, Can I eat the last chocolate yogurt!"
"MOM, CAN I EAT THE LAST CHOCOLATE YOGURT"
"Mom, mom, where are you?" I guess I will stop yelling and go find mom and ask her, which will mean that I do not have to yell across the house.
I can just sit quietly wherever I am and listen, and let them come to me. Sometimes it also means that I do not have to get involved in fights or arguments. They can solve the problem before they can find me. I also can excuse myself from any long winded explanation of why the kids cannot do something, or why they have to do something.
For example, in a whisper "Teddy, time to practice piano"
Teddy says "But mom, 5 more minutes to do this one thing that you and I both know will actually take 2 hours and then I won't have to practice because it will be time to go to bed.."
I just have to give him the frownny face and tilt my head toward the piano, and he drags himself in to the piano... Because I am unable to argue with him.
Sunday, September 17, 2006
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