I originally titled this "Letting People Help", but I think this title is more correct for what I am feeling. I have been letting people in - allowing neighbors to give us meals and watch the kids. I would never have been able to do this without feeling an immediate sense of guilt. And I would spend the next few days stressing about what could I do back for the neighbor. Well, sometimes its your turn to just take and accept whatever help is there. I know that the neighbors are not expecting anything in return and I know that my time will come to help someone out.
In addition I am learning to let people help me. I was able to go the SPOHNC thing because I let someone take care of the kids (thanks Peggy). In my past life I would figure out how to juggle all of our schedules so that I wasn't needy. This might have resulted in my being in complete control, but it clearly was not the best thing for the kids.
It does feel good to have someone take care of you and not get hung up on returning the favor. Also, everyone feels good when they are able to help out.
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